CAT-W practice #1
“Going walk with friends forever…” is a short sentence that belongs to a Chinese song, called “Friends.” When I was young, I always listened to my father or television. This song described how a friend was a necessary part for human beings because friends were the second family for them. This was the first thought when I read the article from Parlee, M.B “The Friend Bond.” Parlee said that trust and acceptance were two important elements to build a deeper friendship because friendship was built by feeling of human beings. It was not like true family because it did not connect by the DNA. It was also not like marriage due to the law. Any reasons would break friendship easily if people did not have a close relationship with each other, such as different opinions on issues or different character after grew up. In my opinion, I agree with Parlee. I also think communication is the common element for a deeper friendship even though trust and acceptance are two most necessary parts for it.
Trusting with each other is a necessary policy for deeper friendship because trusting is the foundation to build the relationship, just like worker must make a strong foundation to build a beautiful and tall building. For instance, I was calling my best friend when I had any terrible problems about my family such as argument between my mother and father. My friend would listen to me and gave me some advice to solve this condition. In addition, I could not share this event to anyone who I did not trust because the family problem was the biggest issue for people. Therefore, I would be more confused and crazy in one day if I always carried this secret. I think trust also like the medicine because it can make people more confortable even though it can’t cure the illness immediately.
In the article, Parlee described, “If the other person continues to accept you, then liking and affection will deepen, as well as trust.” This means acceptance also makes friendship becomes longer and deeper. I agree with Parlee because nobody is perfect person in the world. Acceptance is one way to build a deeper friendship. It is like puzzle. Two parts must be suitable for each other. People can’t put two different parts together. In The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, the author, skloot, always accepted Henrietta’s daughter, Deborah’s mood swing even though she lost her patience with Deborah’s behaviors. Skloot often comforted Deborah when she became more excited or crazy sometimes. For me, I can accept someone who does not have better relationship with me or someone who I do not know a lot. Deborah and Skloot did not have any relationship before Skloot decided to publish this book. How could Skloot accept Deborah? I think friendship was the reason for this. They also became closer based on skloot’s acceptance.
What is the first step that you do when you want to make a new friend? Communicating is the common element to make friends and build deeper relationship with each other. People can talk face to face or on the website. More communication is a good chance to learn more about friends such as her or his behavior, favorite food, dream, or problems. I think communication is the key for people to own a closer and deeper friendship. For example, in college, there are a lot of clubs for students to join. It not only helps students to study, but also gives a place to make friends. All students can make new friends based on communication in the club.
To sum up, if friendship is like a building, then, trust is like foundation, acceptance is like design, and communication is like material. Those elements will build a beautiful building successfully. I think everyone needs to have friends. Friends not only help you to solve issues, but also make your life become happier.
“Going walk with friends forever…” is a short sentence that belongs to a Chinese song, called “Friends.” When I was young, I always listened to my father or television. This song described how a friend was a necessary part for human beings because friends were the second family for them. This was the first thought when I read the article from Parlee, M.B “The Friend Bond.” Parlee said that trust and acceptance were two important elements to build a deeper friendship because friendship was built by feeling of human beings. It was not like true family because it did not connect by the DNA. It was also not like marriage due to the law. Any reasons would break friendship easily if people did not have a close relationship with each other, such as different opinions on issues or different character after grew up. In my opinion, I agree with Parlee. I also think communication is the common element for a deeper friendship even though trust and acceptance are two most necessary parts for it.
Trusting with each other is a necessary policy for deeper friendship because trusting is the foundation to build the relationship, just like worker must make a strong foundation to build a beautiful and tall building. For instance, I was calling my best friend when I had any terrible problems about my family such as argument between my mother and father. My friend would listen to me and gave me some advice to solve this condition. In addition, I could not share this event to anyone who I did not trust because the family problem was the biggest issue for people. Therefore, I would be more confused and crazy in one day if I always carried this secret. I think trust also like the medicine because it can make people more confortable even though it can’t cure the illness immediately.
In the article, Parlee described, “If the other person continues to accept you, then liking and affection will deepen, as well as trust.” This means acceptance also makes friendship becomes longer and deeper. I agree with Parlee because nobody is perfect person in the world. Acceptance is one way to build a deeper friendship. It is like puzzle. Two parts must be suitable for each other. People can’t put two different parts together. In The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, the author, skloot, always accepted Henrietta’s daughter, Deborah’s mood swing even though she lost her patience with Deborah’s behaviors. Skloot often comforted Deborah when she became more excited or crazy sometimes. For me, I can accept someone who does not have better relationship with me or someone who I do not know a lot. Deborah and Skloot did not have any relationship before Skloot decided to publish this book. How could Skloot accept Deborah? I think friendship was the reason for this. They also became closer based on skloot’s acceptance.
What is the first step that you do when you want to make a new friend? Communicating is the common element to make friends and build deeper relationship with each other. People can talk face to face or on the website. More communication is a good chance to learn more about friends such as her or his behavior, favorite food, dream, or problems. I think communication is the key for people to own a closer and deeper friendship. For example, in college, there are a lot of clubs for students to join. It not only helps students to study, but also gives a place to make friends. All students can make new friends based on communication in the club.
To sum up, if friendship is like a building, then, trust is like foundation, acceptance is like design, and communication is like material. Those elements will build a beautiful building successfully. I think everyone needs to have friends. Friends not only help you to solve issues, but also make your life become happier.